Caption this *📸*

Social media… the one place that you get to know all the ugly and the good about everyone. You stalk a person from their Facebook, instagram and twitter account and you get this feeling like you know them like the back of your hand. We tend to believe it all, forgetting that most of the times the life we portray on social media is nothing compared to the real thing…the behind the scenes of our life is much more complicated. Maybe some people’s lives are exactly the same way as we see on their instagram and twitter feed, but I can assure you, for majority of us, social media is the life we make up for ourselves. 

You can see that it starts with something as simple as our names… Rock my world_not your gal, something something luscious, Home boy something…see what I mean, it’s mostly all made up.

Now you find those of us that like to know everything about everyone finishing our data bundles to find out what a certain someone has been up to for the last 7 years, yes we go that far trust me. We see what’s up and we decide to give a title. The same way we caption our pictures, we decide to caption people’s lives based on their Facebook and instagram feed. Now this is where we get it wrong. A person’s life on social media is not exactly the same as the life they live. People are going through things people! and the fact that they don’t tweet them out doesn’t mean their lives are perfect…

Message …


DON’T BE QUICK TO JUDGE; WHAT YOU KNOW ON SOCIAL MEDIA IS JUST HALF OF IT. Yes on Facebook she uploaded something and mentioned something about a great life. Well at times that life is not as great as you think so don’t go around putting captions on people’s lives from what they choose to show you. That bright smile that you see on their profile picture can be a cry for help for all we know.

  

People choose to take a selfie and fake a life.



So be careful what you think or say about the lives you see on your news feed. 

So I am sitting back with my cup of coffee and I open my pinterest app. I keep scrolling and refreshing the feed. Eventually I came across a quote that got me really thinking. It read…


At first I couldn’t get what it was saying but after a few seconds I understood it. I decided to test it out. I asked a few of my friends to mention everything they love, from things, hobbies, places and people. I got great answers I tell you.
They told me:

• Music

• Family

• Sarcasm

• Sleeping

• Not studying

• Eating

• Kapana

• Meat

• And More sleeping

I wasn’t shocked when I got the responses. I would have listed the same things if I was asked. It was then that I got to finally understand the message behind the quote. We put a lot first but the one thing we forget to mention is ourselves. We mention we love food, and sleep and material stuff but we fail to recognize and appreciate ourselves. I mean I am not saying we don’t love ourselves, but I feel we don’t really think of ourselves as much as we think of other people or things.

Of cause when we think of food and sleep we are thinking about ourselves but that’s not the context I am going with. We fail to appreciate our existence most of the times. We fail to just stop and think for a while “I LOVE ME”. I don’t know why it’s like that but maybe it can be changed. Maybe we will learn to put ourselves first before meat and music. We are more than just the food we eat and the sleep we get. We are human and we need to appreciate that every day. We can start with an everyday reminder. It can be a note on your mirror that says “I LOVE ME” and it can be a password to your phone.

I strongly believe a constant reminder that you too deserve to be loved by you, will do the trick. Eventually the list will change from …

* Eating

* Sleeping

* Movies

To a much better list that says

# Me

# Me

# Food

# Music

#justSaying😌

Beyond the imperfections 

I’ve noticed that In life, it is our worst moments that are kept as a memory and all the good we’ve done goes uncredited and unappreciated. People tend to see our bad sides more often and ignore the good we do… I guess it’s just another part of life that we can’t change.

You will do all the good in this world and people won’t notice any of it but, one mistake and you are the talk of the year. 



That’s no excuse to give up on doing the good stuff though,keep doing it ..someone out there will recognize it, and even if they don’t mention it😊 surely they’ve noticed. “Your kindness and goodwill will never go unrecognized” ,even if it’s only a single soul that notices, that’s reason enough to keep going.

Don’t stress when they only notice your imperfections, Sometimes the only person that needs to appreciate you is you…the world can say otherwise, the right person or people will see beyond your faults and failures 




So tell yourself “I’ll do what’s best for me” and just DO YOU BOO😘

Find your aNcHoR ⚓️ 

There is 5stages involved in the process of grieving…

Denial,

         

          Anger,

             

                    Bargaining ,

                             

                                Depression and finally,
Acceptance.

Grieving doesn’t only come with the loss of loved ones, It can come as a response to most challenges we face in life. At times we get bombarded with so much at the same time that we feel like our lives are already over before they even began. We refuse to accept facts,situations and the reality concerning the matter at hand. We get drawn into the grieving process so much that at times we fail to see that we are at our lowest. It’s not easy at all. 

Most of us struggle to move to the final stage, “Acceptance”

 
We get emotionally overwhelmed with all that is going on and we try so hard to just let it be but it gets hard. We fail to work through the difficult situations and issues and we fail to detach from the emotional attachment. Some of us don’t even make it to the last stage, we reach stage 4 and we fall off the wagon… and that’s where my message for the day comes in.

Many times we fail to work through the tough times and challenges thrown at us because we tell ourselves there is no hope and that the world might as well be better off without us at that point in life. We fail to work our problems out because we don’t have that one thing or person that makes us want to not give up on life and keep fighting...an ANCHOR. 

That’s who you need. You need someone to think about when all is going a different direction. You need an anchor so when you are at your lowest you get encouraged to fight and get back up because someone out there depends on your wellbeing and it would be a great loss for them if you don’t get up. 

So find your anchor in life and use that person or those people as an inspiration to want to get up.

I have a little brother, Aron and he is my everyday anchor. He probably doesn’t know it but every time I feel like I am done trying or every time I feel like giving up, I think of him and I tell myself he needs me to be okay. He needs me to be strong and show him that people can fall and get back up. I think of him and I tell myself, I can’t allow myself to breakdown to the point of no return because he needs his big sister and he needs me in one peace.

Hopefully now you see what I mean when I say you need an anchor.😌

So go ahead and choose your anchor in life. They don’t need to know, but you knowing who they are is reason enough to make you want to fight through whatever life throws at you.

It helps really, like a lot and I am not just saying but I am talking from my experiences with life😌. Get an anchor and you will be motivated to get up every morning to face the world once again.

Music…it’s not just a simple art

There is more to music then just the sound of the guitar and the melody of the piano. When I listen to music I don’t only listen to the sound, I listen to the words…okay sometimes the beats are really great I can’t lie I enjoy that😝, but I mostly like to follow and listen to what the words are saying. Certain songs do a lot for us rather than just cause a great noise pollution.
 
There are certain songs that you can listen to and somehow you find yourself in a very calming mood. The way the words flow, the soothing sounds of the pianos and the mesmerizing sound of the singer…it’s like everything just comes together and for a moment life is perfect. No wonder they say music is medicine for the soul ( or something like that). It’s more than just simple art really.Look at this lyrics…

Selena Gomez, kill em with kindness 

“The world can be a nasty place, you know it, I know it. See we don’t have to fall from grace,put down the weapons you fight with and kill em with kindness…Your lies are bullets, your mouth is a gun and no war in anger was won. Put out the fire before igniting and next time you fight, kill em with kindness”

Such simple words with so much meaning. It’s like she’s telling you that there will always be people who say and do things with no regard to how it will affect you. That there will be those that throw insults at you and make it their everyday mission to make your life miserable but, you will only be affected if you choose to give action to their words. You need to remember that you can’t always change people but you can change the way you react to them. You don’t always need to get even with those that hurt you. You need to learn to know when to speak and when to simply walk away and smile goodbye as you do. “KILL EM With KINDNESS”

Louis Tomlinson and Steve Aoki, Just hold on

” wish that you could build a time machine, so you can see the things no one else can see. Feels like you’re standing on the edge,looking at the stars wishing you were them…what do you do when the chapter ends? Do you close the book and never read it again? Where do you go when the story’s done? You can be who you were or who you’ll become” If it all goes wrong, darling just hold on. The sun goes down and it comes back up. The world turns no matter what, so if it all goes wrong, Darling just hold on”

This one is quite clear. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. If you haven’t found your light yet, if you are still struggling to find your breakthrough, don’t give up, Just hold on.



Justin Bieber, life is worth living 

“Ended up on a crossroad, try to figure out which way to go. It’s like you’re stuck on a treadmill running in the same place. You got your hazard lights on now Hoping that somebody will slow down, praying for a miracle, who will show you grace?…It ain’t never over, even in the midst of doubt. Life is worth living, so live another day. The meaning of forgiveness, people make mistakes, doesn’t mean you have to give in. Life is worth living again”

This is one of my favorites. It’s straight forward, LIFE IS WORTH LIVING. You don’t get to throw away everything because at some point it went wrong or because you got stuck. There is more to life then that one simple mistake and there’s definitely a road on the other side of the hump in your way. Forgive yourself not just once but, again and again and again.As many times as it takes to find peace. LIFE IS WORTH LIVING.

See what I mean, it’s not always the beats and the melodies, sometimes it’s in the simple words. It’s more than just simple art.😊


I don’t know why I wrote this, but I know I am glad I did.

Holding on

If there’s one thing that I’ve learned is that YOU DON’T JUST DECIDE TO STOP.


You don’t just decide to give up.


 You don’t just decide to end the process or cut the journey short because all is not going as planned or because not many people are for whatever you are doing. 

You don’t just decide to say it’s enough when you haven’t given it your all. 

You don’t get to stop just because you got stuck, 

You don’t get to stop because it became too hard.


The people that make it in life are the ones that don’t give up…or maybe they do but only for a few minutes. The people that make it are the ones that keep going even when the going gets tough. 

The people that make it are the ones that seek for solutions instead of excuses. The people that make it are the ones who fail and keep trying.The ones that fall and get up, the ones that lose themselves but still get the courage to find themselves. These are the people, and you too can be those people.


You too can make it in life.



Find it in you to explore your capabilities. Find the strength in you and hold on, because the people that make it are the ones that keep holding on even when things are heavy and painful, the ones that keep holding on even when they know there’s more load then the strength in them…but they hold on because in the end there is nothing to regret.

So No you don’t get to give up just yet. At least not until you’ve given it your blood sweat and tears.
Hold on a little while longer

Your sisters keeper 

We walk the streets of this world not knowing who will hold our hands when we feel lost or who will show us the direction to the right path. At times we know but somehow we are left with that 10% doubt that surely someone close will be there when we need them. There is no need to keep walking the streets alone,we have people in our lives,who are always there for us. When they are not physically close,they watch from a distance waiting for you to ask for their help…

So put down your guard,you have people.Go to them.





We are our sisters keepers…I don’t only mean sister as in blood but I include everyone around you that has proven to be worthy of your love attention and time.Your friends family you name it. They are your keepers and you are theirs.Basically I am just trying to encourage that we look out for the people we love. Not only when they need a chill and hang buddy,but also when they need a helping hand and a shoulder to cry on.Be there for others as you wish for them to be there for you. Don’t take advantage of their kind hearts and mesmerizing personalities,be their anchor when they need one and also be there when they need someone to talk to.


Just be there




They will remember you forever 😊…Don’t you want that? To be remembered forever?