There is a place for us

It’s the last sunday of the year…scratch that, it’s the last day of the year…2017 is coming to an end in a few hours and I have seen people express how greatful they are for 2017…It was a long year but we learned a lot…the good times gave us memories to look back on, and the bad times taught us lessons from which we can make our 2018 better.

So far I’ve seen people say “I will be a better person next year” but that’s not it, the fact that you realised you needed to get better next year is already a sign that you are a better person…the difference between next year and now is that you will start next year as a better person.

Well, like the rest of the world, I am also greatful for this year…I’ve accomplished things I never thought possible and I have faced some of my fears…( yes some, don’t push it). 2017 was a great blessing and I am greatful that I made it to it’s last day.

As you prepare for tomorrow take this with you:

We can be the kings and queens of anything if we believe in ourselves…there is always a place for us…so chin up and put on your “I got this” attitude, because tomorrow, which is next year is about to get the best of you…

From me and my blog, happy New year😘


Little not so little

You know those moments when you were super busy with something and suddenly your phone rings…you stop what you were doing to go answer your call and whoever called goes like...”I have nothing to say I just called to say hi”

So when you hang up you go like..Nxo…I left my work just so one can say Hi, and they didn’t even give me anything

Well yes you did…but instead of getting all grumpy about it how about you be grateful that someone actually thought to just check up on you. Yes you would rather someone called to tell you about the fight that went on between Sonia and Jake or tell you why Jack was fired but the thing that we forget most times is that , at times the things we see as useless or time wasting are actually the very things that mean so much…

The little things in life are not so little

So be smart to not get worked up when one calls or texts just to say a simple “Hi”

Be greatful that someone woke up and thought to just check up on you…there are people out there who are wishing they had someone to just call and ask how they are. So feel fortunate that you have that someone who texts to say hi and not to borrow money or ask for a favor.

Learn to Embrace and appreciate the little that people who love you do for you…those little things tend to make the most difference in our lives…


Enough with the bullying

I Came across this one heartbreaking story on my twitter feed today. It was titled “10 year old commits suicide after video of her fight with alleged bully surfaced online“…One doesn’t even need to read the whole story because just the first 5 words are already shocking…

10 year old commits suicide

10’year olds don’t commit suicide…They have tea parties and play princesses. They go for slumber parties and discuss the sleeping beauty and Cinderella stories. They don’t commit suicide…but this one did. This poor girl felt the need to end her life because she saw no purpose to it. This princess felt the need to end her life because she couldn’t find her worth anymore.

I was never bullied but seeing that a kid that small felt the need to end her suffering by ending her life, I can just imagine how painful she must have felt. At 10 kids are supposed to be seeing rainbows everyday and wishing onto the fairies. At 10 kids are busy preparing for santa to bring them gifts…they are not busy plotting their deaths.

It’s really sad to see that this girl felt she had no other choice but to end it all. I mean whatever happened to schools being the one thing kids looked forward to every day?

The whole Bullying thing is just messed up. A kid that young is supposed to feel comfortable and open to expressing how she feels, a kid that young is supposed to feel like she has many options to choose from but suicide isn’t supposed to be on the list.

Just reading the story made me realize that there is need for mental health education in our educational systems...some will argue and say we have sex education but that’s just education is not mental health. Yes we are all aware of the ABC rules but we not informed on what to do when we are called names by our peers or when they make fun of our appearance…with an introduction of mental health in schools kids will be able to know what to do when they are victims of bullying. Emotional pain is one of the worst things anyone can go through...Such pain is hard to overcome because it is embedded in ones brain… the words said to them, the physical abuse and the feeling of being unwanted keeps replaying in their mind.

I read the comments on the story and one guy expressed how he was bullied but was always told to fight back…

This is the problem with us people. We fail to realize everyone is made in a different way. We fail to realize not everyone is as strong as we may be. You see fighting back as an option but I simply want to move past the torture without resolving to violence as an option. We need to realize that sometimes people just need to be told they are worth it despite what the outside world says, sometimes people need to be reminded it’s not the opinions of others that matter but ones perception of the self that truly counts. It’s not always about fighting back…sometimes people just need someone to tell them they are enough despite what they might be going through.

If someone comes to you complaining that they are being bullied in any sort of way, let it be your responsibility as a parent, teacher, or friend to remind them whatever is happening is just a chapter in their story, remind them they are enough and are worth it despite how they feel in that moment, remind them they have the courage to rise above whatever they are experiencing and come out on top. Remind them they are amazing despite what some people may think.Make it your responsibility to remind victims of bullying that they have a choice …we always have a choice.

To everyone being bullied out there;

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life but define yourself

Tim Fields

Remember they insult and hurt you because they are insecure about something they lack…they want to be you only they don’t have your courage. Don’t fall for their traps to break you because baby you are enough and no one can take that away from you.


Rest In Peace Ashawnty Davis


Embrace the Mess

We all experience some sort of hardships day and day, and sometimes we fail to overcome these challenges.Even if you haven’t chosen a hard path, you find yourself in a hard path. Almost everyone finds themselves in some sort of hard path.

The  journey you take now will be led by you alone. Don’t let that scare you…ow No! Let it liberate you.

Keep moving forward and don’t be frustrated when your path gets messy, because it will get messy.
You will fall and fail along the way…Wildly 

Embrace the Mess

These words were spoken by actress Octavia Spencer.

Moral behind the article:
Choose to embrace the Mess, the challenges and the failure you encounter as you’re slugging along.

Hardship = happiness only if you learn to embrace it. 

Though you are not supposed to try something expecting failure, have a mind to accept it and learn from it when something goes wrong. The lessons in life that help you grow the most are those taught by the challenges you go through.
Remember You can only truly be satisfied and happy with yourself if you understand that through hardship;

*you are not alone,

* that you are becoming a better person, 

*that “easy” is boring and gets you no where.


One day at a time

You are a carbon-based  life form much like everyone. No one expects you to be Super Man or Wonder Woman So when the going gets tough, Grab a bottle and take it one day at a time…🤗


There will be days when you question what you do and how you do it…There will be days when you wonder if you should go ahead with something or stop because for some reason you are scared of how the people you love will react…

There will be days when you struggle with whether to turn down opportunities presented to you or take the risk and accept them…
Trust me these days will be there.If you haven’t already experienced them, you will someday…

These days will be there…but you have to remember this one thing;

Whatever you do in this world, make sure you do it for you…Yes at times not everyone will agree with what you want but remember you are the one that gets to deal with the consequences and not them...So if it will put your soul at peace, Go ahead and do it…not because someone said you should, but because you feel it’s what you want to do…
Tell yourself 

“I am doing this for me”


Chapter 22

Years ago I was just an infant…a tiny innocent soul. But that was 22 years ago.Today I get to start another chapter of my life…Chapter 22
Nothing says you are in your early 20s like a good ole’fashioned panic attack about your life choices and the fact that every move you make is extremely critical to the path you’re going to go down for the next 5 or 10 years… don’t get me wrong! I am thrilled to have made it this far. Growing old is a privilege denied to many and I thank God for being among the lucky ones.

Twenty two…A simple digit but, for a simple number it certainly brings more than just simplicity to ones’ life. I was never really one to worry much about life decisions, maybe because back then I had people make decisions for me.I didn’t have to face the challenges that came with making choices because it was simple… I didn’t have to make any.

The transition from 17 to the years of adulthood is one that many of us don’t really notice until we’re faced with some sort of challenges and realize that it’s not up to mummy or daddy anymore but rather it is up to us to actually come up with a solution.They say there’s nothing worse than regret. If there is one thing that I regret is the fact that I failed to enjoy my years of being a teenager and I assume many of you out there failed to do the same thing.

We were so ready to flap our wings and roam the world as we pleased.Most of us couldn’t wait for our 18th birthdays so we could finally tell our parents off and do as we pleased because we would finally be grown ups ( which I never tried doing 😂,they will kill me).That urge to finally be free from all the rules and regulations, that was what drove most of us. It was the one thing that we were looking forward to as we thought of ourselves as adults.

We were so focused preparing for the future that we forgot to live in the present moment.Some of us even skipped right ahead to being adults at the age of 13.We just couldn’t wait to make our own decisions and have no one complain as to why we chose to do or not do certain things or why we preferred to be or not to be something. That great feeling when you finally enter a bar and not be scared that you are underage.We were all so eager to get to the famous stage of adulthood…

and then adulthood met us.

It’s like one day you are 17 and you’re planning for someday.And then quietly,without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And then someday is yesterday. And this is your life...The eager to grow and be an adult subsides and the sentence “when I grow up”, ceases.We get to finally be free and get to make our own decisions as we’ve always imagined it would be but…yes there is a but because, it’s not exactly as we imagined it would be. There is no manual written “How to adult”

You get to figure out everything on your own, you get to be your own manual.You get to finally make your own mistakes and regret decisions made. You get more responsibilities on your shoulders and no one necessarily stands beside you to help you. You get to make important choices for yourself and take accountability for what you’ve chosen and you learn to recognize your weaknesses and either work on them or accept them. As if that’s not enough, you learn to enjoy being alone, you get to work on knowing yourself more, standing up for yourself and those around you. So it turns out that being an adult is mostly just GOOGLING YOURSELF and finding million answers that all seem to need more googling.

Sodas and juice boxes eventually become vodka and beer. Bikes become cars, pigtails turn into Brazilians and kisses become sex. You look back and remember when your dad’s shoulders were the highest place on earth and your mom was your hero and realize now you get to climb walls and mountains and get to be your own hero. You remember only knowing physical pain as you skinned your knees and realize that for some reason physical pain wasn’t pain anymore because you get to be hurt emotionally. Heartbreak, headaches you name it. You remember how you couldn’t wait to grow up and for a few minutes you regret growing up so much that when you pick up a crying baby you think to yourself “it’s okay buddy,when you grow up you’ll learn how to do this on the inside”.

Your life becomes one Big “ I don’t know” and your moods circulate between I am too old for this, I am too tired for this, I am too sober for this and I don’t have time for this. It comes to a point where you have to choose between two directions…Lost or Very lost
Don’t be scared…that’s just part of it.

when you think you only have two options to choose from, being lost or very lost, you realize you are not lost or even very lost but instead you realize you are just on your way…On your way to better yourself, on your way to achieving what you want, and on your way to a whole new life out there.

Trust me there is perks to growing up. You remember those PG 16 rated movies that you weren’t allowed to watch, well you get to have a folder of movies like that. You get to enter places that say Parent supervision is advised…without your parents. You get to be invited to dinner dates and masquerade balls. Basically you get to explore and experience life on your own terms. And who wouldn’t want that? Who wouldn’t want to skip that Immunology class and stay in bed watching mistresses and Real husbands of Hollywood without faking a cold?

In the past I used to think, what if there was a button that I could push and all of the things that have complicated my life will just unhappen? I would push it and all of the people that shouldn’t have died would still be alive. I wouldn’t have hurt anyone or disappointed them. And no one would have hurt me or lied to me. And this whole mess would just be cleaned up.But then I grew up and so did my thinking. I realized if I pushed that button, I would be gone too. I realized I am me because of what has happened,what I’ve done and because of who I loved. I love that person. That me, messy and all.

As you age, Life gets interesting really.You realize everyone you meet has a part in your story. And while some may take a chapter, others take a paragraph, and most will be no more than scribbled notes in the margins.You change…it’s inevitable but, progression from one point to another is a choice you learn to make. You learn to be the one who matures and builds. You learn to be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart.You learn to be the one who looks for the best in people…and lastly you learn to leave people better than you found them. See the beauty in aging?l do😊
I will stop here.I will leave the rest to your own experiences.

 I don’t regret growing old. I am grateful for the fact that I got a shot at this once In a lifetime age. Thank you God. 


Just being 22 got me so curious I can’t wait for 92☺️

                                                                      Name: Aloisia 

                                                         Date of birth: 27th October 1995