Dear Time

Most times we complain that you are not enough,

We complain that we need more of you, and yet we waste most of you focusing on the wrong things.
We complain that you are not enough because for some reason we forget that it’s not how much time we have but how we spend the little time we have. They say time is an illusion, I don’t know if it’s true but here is what I ask you…

If time is really an illusion, then it’s all in my mind,
If time is an illusion then It’s not how many months we have left or how many seconds we have to spare,but instead it’s our perception of time that really matters.

So time;

Teach me to acknowledge your presence,
Teach me to acknowledge how precious you are,

Teach me to live everyday keeping in mind that the next second is not guaranteed,

Teach me to value and appreciate every second and minute that you offer me,
Teach me the meaning of time
 Yours: Me



Choose to live by choice and not by chance…
Choose to make changes and not excuses…

Choose to be motivated and not manipulated…

Choose to be useful and not used…

Choose to excel and not to compete…

Choose self esteem and not self pity…

Choose to listen to your inner voice and not the random opinions of others…

Let the past be your lesson,the present your gift and the future your motivation…

Whatever you do,never run back to what broke you…

Remember you are always one decision away from a totally different life,

Don’t stop until you are proud 

Not my words

I didn’t write the next piece. I took it from one of my favourite blogs ever Marc and Angel. They have so much to give and I wanted to share that with you guys. So here it goes…

The older you grow, the more quiet you become. Life humbles you gradually as you age. You realize how much nonsense you’ve wasted time on.

The biggest nonsense creator of them all?

Your mind… and the fantasies it likes to project into every facet of your life. You’ve likely fantasized your way into headaches and heartaches hundreds of times in the past! And you aren’t alone either.

We all stress ourselves out… because of fantasies.

We all procrastinate to the point of failure… because of fantasies.

We all get angry with others, with ourselves, and with the world at large… because of fantasies.

We all miss out on many of life’s most beautiful and peaceful moments… because of fantasies.

This might seem hard to believe at first, so let’s look at some super common examples…

• When we wake up and immediately start fantasizing and worrying about all the things we have to do, we aren’t really doing anything but adding stress to an otherwise pleasant morning.

• When we fear the potential of failure, and we procrastinate in response to our fear, our fearful fantasies force us to miss great opportunities for success.

• When someone upsets us, this is often because they aren’t behaving according to our fantasy of how they “should” behave. The frustration, then, stems not from their behavior but from how their behavior differs from our fantasy.

• When we think about making a healthy change in our lives (like getting in shape), we are initially inspired by the fantasy of how easy it will be, but… that’s not reality. So when the reality of working hard to exercise and eat right surfaces, and it doesn’t match up with our inspiring fantasy, we give up.

• When we’re having a conversation with someone, we’re distracted with fantasies of how this person views us, or we’re distracted by our propensity to fantasize about how to respond before they even finish talking, and thus we miss the opportunity to connect more deeply with them.

• When we move through our days, our minds are stuck fantasizing about other times and places, and so we miss the pleasant surprises and simple pleasures surrounding us.

Of course, sometimes we get out of our own heads long enough to focus on the present and make the best of it, but it’s NOT often enough. So remind yourself, as often as necessary, to see the moment for what it really is, not what you think it should be. Accept it, so you can make the best of it…

Do what you have to do without worrying and fearing the worst, lamenting about what might happen, or obsessing over how difficult your work is. Just begin, take it one step at a time, and do the best you can.

See others for who they are, and accept them, without needless judgments. Choose not to allow their behavior to dominate your thoughts and emotions. Just be present and accepting. Then decide if you want to spend extra time with them. If not, part ways peacefully.

Carry your presence with you wherever you go. Appreciate the little moments. Remind yourself that there are few joys in life that equal a good laugh, a good conversation, a good morning walk, a good afternoon hug, or a good deep breath at the end of the day.

In the end, we can fantasize all we want, but it doesn’t improve our reality.

Just think about your life and what happens when you let your fantasies get the best of you.

It certainly doesn’t lead to happiness and success.

When you constantly tell yourself little self-deprecating lies — fantasies — you start believing them and your behavior naturally backs the lies up. You start procrastinating. You put your biggest goals on the back burner. You always feel guilty and regretful for not taking action. You give up when the first obstacle comes your way. You blame others. Your important relationships take a major hit. And the list goes on and on.

And you know what the really scary part is? Most people don’t know they are digging themselves a hole by repetitively listening to their fantasies and the negative self-talk they produce.

To get yourself out of this mess, you need to literally rewire your brain and replace the negative, distracted mindsets with positive, productive ones. For example, instead of saying, “I don’t think I have what it takes,” you must start saying, “I can figure this out!” And by doing so, you’ll stop saying, “I’m not ready yet,” and you’ll start taking action because the new mindset is something along the lines of “I am ready to learn and grow!”

As I’ve said, there are dozens of different variations of fantasies that can hurt your self-image and — as a result — your immediate happiness and success. But it’s also important to remember that they will affect many other areas of your life in the long run too, like:

• Lack of confidence at work

• Heart


You can run but you can’t hide 

The human brain is a terrible place to live in. One minute you want to live in it because that’s your safe haven then the next minute you want to run away from it because you can’t stand your own thoughts and troubles that you have in there…but we can’t run from it. So we turn to a coping mechanism that seems to be everyone’s favorite…we avoid what’s bothering us and we try to destruct ourselves from the ugly reality. We watch 10 movies in a row, we start a fight for no reason, we turn to our best friend alcohol, and we start a rumor about someone else, just so we get to think of something else except the one thing that is really bothering us.


Avoiding the situation actually works. For a moment there you get to not think of anything but happy thoughts,But the problem is, it never really lasts. If you opted to avoid the problems you face by starting fights, you start pushing away everyone that ever meant anything to you, and if you found comfort in starting rumors, eventually you become the girl that everyone hates because she said something about everyone.

My point is, avoiding your troubles won’t make them go away. They will wait until you are you again and they will become intense and unbearable every time you try to avoid them. You will think you are solving a problem by avoiding it but all you are doing is creating even more problems for yourself. Do yourself a favor and opt for a different coping mechanism.  

It won’t be easy, we are all still struggling to adjust to whatever life throws at us, but the strong are surviving, not because they don’t try to avoid their problems at all but because they try to work them out more often.

Just take it one step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in one day, and you certainly won’t solve all your problems in one day…even if you kill yourself, you still have to face the big man.

There is no escaping the mind and all its torments, there is just learning to work it out. If it doesn’t work out then make your peace with it and move on knowing you tried and you didn’t try to run. 

#Just saying…