Just Listen

Sometimes  People  just need someone to ask them this question…How are you?

It’s surprising what this question can dig up.Some of us keep whatever we feel inside and walk around with a smile,but on certain occasions we break down and need someone to listen. Be that someone,help unload a burden on someone’s back and just be that someone.You just lean back and listen.Analyze every word,every expression and every emoji๐Ÿ˜‰.Be the person they want you to be in that moment,let them unload. Just listen

“The basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen…just listen .Perhaps the most important thing we can give each other is our attention ” Rachel Naomi


You got this๐Ÿ˜‹

You don’t always need people in your corner cheering you on. One day they may stop cheering and you will have nothing or no one to look out for. So my thoughts…Be your  own best friend,be your biggest fan,be your own cheerleader,be your own strength and learn to cheer for yourself.You got this. You go you๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป

Do you and be youย 

I have noticed that most of the times we do things because we don’t want to hurt the people around us.We allow ourselves to be pushed around and we do this in the hope that we spare them the agony .I am not saying we shouldn’t make sacrifices for those we love ,just don’t let them take advantage of you.It’s very easy to mistake being taken advantage of and being loved. 

Be wide awake and don’t let anyone take over…unless you have to,which is almost never. Don’t give anyone the right to make you seem like an object or some tool they can use for their own pleasures.Whatever you do always keep your head high and take no nonsense from anyone…unless you  have to…
Always do you and be you 

PS: Never apologize for who you are.If they can’t handle your worse,they don’t deserve your best…#stolen๐Ÿ˜
again,just saying 


Perfect imperfectionsย 

Disgusting,disgusting,disgusting,disgusting,disgusting disgusting ,awful awful awful awful awful awful,unattractive unattractive unattractive unattractive unattractive… Those were the words that came out of their mouths.I watched in silence as I thought and asked myself,what has become of us?

We are women,one of God’s greatest creations ,we preach that we are made in his image yet we look in the mirror and see disgusting,awful ,and the list goes on.If you are still lost am talking about body image.I was going through my newsfeed on Facebook and I came across a shared post.It was a video in which women of different backgrounds and class were asked to describe their bodies with one word.I wish I could say I was shocked by their responses but in this era,I see why most of them felt the way they felt.

Body image has become a great burden to majority of us that we no longer have the courage to stand tall and feel comfortable in our bodies.We feel judged and we feel pressured to have the perfect body because society said so. My question is what exactly is a perfect body?I also don’t have the answer but here is what I know ;

I don’t hate my body,yes I get insecure about it at times but I don’t hate it.But I have friends who will tell me they don’t like how they looked in front of the mirror,and then I would look at them but you know what I see ,a beautiful woman.The fact that am a size 4 and you are a size 14 or 18 doesn’t make me better looking than you.It all comes down to your self confidence.If you keep entertaining the thought that you have a disgusting body,you will end up believing that everyone that looks at you sees an ugly woman which is not true.Yes some people will talk about you but so what? Whatever you do in this world,people will still talk.
Always try to keep a positive mind and you will start to see what people around you are really seeing,and that’s a beautiful woman,perfect in all her imperfections. You are beautiful just the way you are and if some people fail to see that,don’t beat yourself up.It’s not your fault,you just be you and do you.

But again,I am just saying๐Ÿ˜Š


Doing it for you

 That’s the question you get when you decide to do something.The curiosity of the people around you rises as you decide to do something or not do something๐Ÿค”(Doesn’t sound right) but anyway…I don’t blame them,some will try to talk you down and others will simply accept your decisions without judging. 

Don’t hate them for asking..they are asking because they care๐Ÿ˜Š.

And then I think to myself,I know most decisions we do in life affect people around us and have to be careful when deciding,but I also believe at certain times we have to decide what’s good for us…taking time off to just think of yourself…if it makes you happy,do it..If it has challenges and you are ready to face em…do it.If it puts your heart and mind at peace…do it.

Don’t do it because,she is doing it or he is doing it and you do almost everything together ,but do it because you want to do it. At times it’s going to be hard deciding what you really want..at times people will be hurt in the process,people you love and care about…but in the end it always comes back to you…you you and nobody but you.

Just do it for you.Be selfish once in a while and just consider yourself.๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜