How do I make what I do matter?

How do you know it’s worth it? How do you know the little you do is actually helping someone out there? How do you make what you do matter? These are the questions that we ask ourselves.
It is within our human nature to want to feel that whatever we are devoting the vast majority of our precious time and energy to, actually makes some kind of positive difference in our lives or in that of others. Just to feel like we have a purpose in this world. Nevertheless, the question still remains, how do I make what I do matter?

I personally failed to answer this question so I asked my friends for assistance…here are their opinions.

Taleni Pea :
Robert Smith once said, “whatever drives us, we all derive happiness from finding purpose.” But how do you know it’s worth it? How do you know the little you do is actually helping someone out there? How do you make what you do matter?

I’ve tried to think of all the many things that i can do. From making whatever it is i do, different from how any other person would do it, to being innovative and doing things with honor and dignity. But I’ve come to the conclusion that, at the end of the day, all the things i stress about in life don’t really matter all that much because someday, Yellowstone is going to explode and kill us all. Just think about that for a second…

At any moment, what we now know as Yellowstone could spew its guts up, killing everything in its path and rendering everything you think counts and matters totally insignificant. So nothing you do really matters that much.
Yes your work is meaningful and makes a difference. Yes you help a lot of people and that has a ripple effect. Yes you want to take your school and/or business seriously and make it a success. But at the end of the day, when the world blows up, will you be happy with the choices you made? With how you spent your time? With the risks you took? With the chances you gamble on?
Despite how ridiculous this may sound, I am serious. “Nothing you do really matter.” The one sure way to make what you do matter, is to believe it matters and it will. Nobody else has the power to make something important to you if not you. For something to matter you need to give power to it so that it matters even when someone comes across it, whatever it might be, they will respect it because it matters to you. So it begins with yourself. Whatever you do, if it serves a purpose and derives happiness within you, then you have made it matter.

Tina Nande :

•Do it as though You were doing it for yourself 

We live in a world obsessed with self-love. People can go to greater extends for themselves, now imagine if we went to greater extends in the purposes we serve as though we were serving ourselves. One can never make trash for themselves. This is why it has to matter to me first, if it is going to matter to anybody else. This I believe is the very first place to begin. Make it matter by doing it as though you were doing it for yourself.
•Take it out of the heart. 

I believe it is in the heart that purpose is hidden. And since I can modify the state of my heart, I can invest well into it, so that I can trust living out of it.

•Evaluate the state of your heart. 

From out of the heart, the issues of life flow”, so if my heart is filled with purpose and all that matters, then only things that matter will flow out of it. If I trust the state of my heart, then everything that has the warmth of my heart matters.

Make yourself believe it matters. 

If my mind is convinced that the purpose I serve here on the earth matters,

• Put in your all, then hope and pray it changes a life. 

I live with an understanding that the world only cares for what it can get from me, so why not make what I do for the world matter by sacrificing for it? It doesn’t have to be perfect to matter; it just has to be excellent.

• All in all, embrace your place. 

I believe that my part is indispensable and important, so much so that at times I don’t have to prove its importance; I just have to perform at my best. I was created because I was needed and that is proof enough that the purpose I serve matters. 

There you go,
I have asked many others and eventually they all came to one specific conclusion...It should matter to you…You’ve got to identify what matters to you and do just that. You might feel insignificant because you can’t see how your work really changes the world but remember that you are the one that holds the power to make whatever you do meaningful and uplifting to others.

What you do in this world is as meaningful as you make it


Random reminder 

So you sit there and wonder if anything you’ve done is worth it. You question not only your existence but you go deeper and wonder if there was or if there is any purpose to your being…

Maybe before today you didn’t know what your purpose was

Maybe you had no idea as to why God even bothered to wake you up this very morning 

Maybe…just maybe

Maybe you felt out of place when you woke up today. 

Well end the negative thoughts 

You still have today to start again.


                                                                 “One day? Or day one”



     You decide 

Prayer of a young adult 

Your 20s are a gift from God. Old enough to develop your spiritual gifts and young enough to pursue the dreams he has given you.

Dear Lord…
At this strange age, 

may I remember that everything in life happens for me and not to me

May I remember that everything happens at exactly the right moment,neither too soon or too late.

Often, I miss the little girl whose dreams had no barriers, who believed in a world where anything is possible,with a heart that was full and unbroken…on the days when that happens, Help me remember that growing old was not punishment but a privilege denied to many.May I always remember that until I cross the bridge of my insecurities, I cannot begin to explore the possibilities you’ve planned out for me.

May my mission in life not be merely to survive but to thrive and to do so with passion, some compassion,some humor and some style as Maya Angelou has said.

May I remember to fill my life with purpose so that I spend less time looking for approval. 

At this strange age, may I get the courage to see beyond the physical and see the best in everyone.May I keep in mind that what seems confusing today will someday make perfect sense, and for now remind me to see the beauty in laughing through the confusion,and smiling through the tears.Help me remember that before Alice went to wonderland, she had to fall. Help me see and accept my perfect imperfections and remember to always live, learn and upgrade.

May I never forget on my best days that I need God as desperately as I did on my worst days.


Inform your heart

So I am taking out the trash while frustrated over the fact that the trash is just too much and I found a written piece of paper…first I told myself  “ow some secrets thrown away time to find out”🙈…I picked the paper up and it read…

                          PROVERBS 22:3
                          “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself”

                                       “Don’t follow your heart, inform your heart”

So I stood there, and as I read I thought to myself, most times I tell myself and I tell those around me to follow their hearts every time they are caught in certain situations,but then I read the paper again and I realized I was wrong…

The heart like a baby, is a delicate human organ, it’s sensitive and it feels…It is overwhelmed with emotions. Like a baby, the heart needs guidance and needs to be told what to do and what not to do. If we followed our hearts every time we felt something we will be disorganized in some sort of way. We will not know what is right and what is wrong because we will tell ourselves “we are following our heart”…which I just realized is not the right way…

                         So Don’t follow your heart, inform your your heart.

Like a father guiding his son through a storm, guide your heart through the trials and tribulations…

                                you know better, your heart feels what you tell it to feel…

“The future scares me”

“The future scares me”, she said as she played back memories from her past life…

The older we get the more we experience life and its great yet heart aching adventures. We get kicked back and forth, and we get lost in our heads. We get to experience the consequences of the choices we’ve made…both the good and the bad. The best consequences leave us with memories and stories to tell.It is the bad experiences that leave us wounded and scared to move forward. 

So we tell ourselves the future scares us. We fail to open doors for opportunities because we fear what awaits us, we fail to start over and give love a chance once again because we are afraid of falling too deep, and we fail to look beyond our mistakes and imperfections because we’ve made our minds believe that there is no perfection beyond our flaws…

yes we say “the future scares us” but,the truth is it’s not that we are scared of the future, it’s not that we are scared of finding love again, it’s not that we are scared of what’s behind the door, it’s repeating the past that makes us anxious. You are not scared of the future, you are worried that your past experiences will come back and that is not something you are ready for

…so you say you are scared of the future.

P.S. Your past doesn’t have to determine your future. You’ve got to believe that your past made you stronger and your mistakes made you wiser. You’ve got to believe in the future…your future 

They say life is like a piano. The white keys represent happiness and the black shows sadness.and as you go through life’s journey, remember that like a piano, the black keys also make music 


We all have certain sayings or quotes that we base our lives on and reflect to whenever we feel like we are stuck or caught in between somehow. There is over a million quotes that one can relate to but here are my top ten favorites so far…

10.You have got to stop taking everything too personal…it’s not always about you😏

9.You too are your own priority 

8.If it won’t matter in 5years , don’t spend more than 5 minutes getting angry about it

7. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness 

6. Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to the error that counts 

5.Until you cross the bridge of your insecurities, you can’t begin to explore your possibilities 

4.You live, you learn and upgrade

3. Choose to see the good in everything and everyone 

2.Don’t think too much, just do what makes you happy 

1. Embrace your Perfect Imperfections 

Maybe two of those can help make a difference to your life and give you a new perspective.

You too are your own priority 😊

Being human is all about being there for the ones around you. As humans we remember to take care of the people around us. Your friends post something bad on their WhatsApp and Facebook status and you immediately stop what you were doing and ask them how they are. 

You remember to say good morning and goodnight to your loved ones. You get up early to make your kid’s lunch box and Iron their uniform. You stay up late because your friend is heartbroken and needs a friend…basically what I am saying is we make those around us our priorities. Keep up the good work!

But… yes there is a but…you’ve got to remember this one thing,

“You too are your own priority”

Yes we must be there for the people we love, but sometimes we have to make ourselves our own priorities too. Take a day off and just do something for you. Get a manicure 💅, get your weave straightened, get your beard trimmed, go out for ice cream. I mean yes people need you but you need you too. The world won’t stop moving when you decide to do something just for you, so pull back a little and just prioritize on you for a while…

                                   even if it’s just for a minute 

Be your own priority