I Came across this one heartbreaking story on my twitter feed today. It was titled “10 year old commits suicide after video of her fight with alleged bully surfaced online“…One doesn’t even need to read the whole story because just the first 5 words are already shocking…
10 year old commits suicide
10’year olds don’t commit suicide…They have tea parties and play princesses. They go for slumber parties and discuss the sleeping beauty and Cinderella stories. They don’t commit suicide…but this one did. This poor girl felt the need to end her life because she saw no purpose to it. This princess felt the need to end her life because she couldn’t find her worth anymore.
I was never bullied but seeing that a kid that small felt the need to end her suffering by ending her life, I can just imagine how painful she must have felt. At 10 kids are supposed to be seeing rainbows everyday and wishing onto the fairies. At 10 kids are busy preparing for santa to bring them gifts…they are not busy plotting their deaths.
It’s really sad to see that this girl felt she had no other choice but to end it all. I mean whatever happened to schools being the one thing kids looked forward to every day?
The whole Bullying thing is just messed up. A kid that young is supposed to feel comfortable and open to expressing how she feels, a kid that young is supposed to feel like she has many options to choose from but suicide isn’t supposed to be on the list.
Just reading the story made me realize that there is need for mental health education in our educational systems...some will argue and say we have sex education but that’s just it...sex education is not mental health. Yes we are all aware of the ABC rules but we not informed on what to do when we are called names by our peers or when they make fun of our appearance…with an introduction of mental health in schools kids will be able to know what to do when they are victims of bullying. Emotional pain is one of the worst things anyone can go through...Such pain is hard to overcome because it is embedded in ones brain… the words said to them, the physical abuse and the feeling of being unwanted keeps replaying in their mind.
I read the comments on the story and one guy expressed how he was bullied but was always told to fight back…
This is the problem with us people. We fail to realize everyone is made in a different way. We fail to realize not everyone is as strong as we may be. You see fighting back as an option but I simply want to move past the torture without resolving to violence as an option. We need to realize that sometimes people just need to be told they are worth it despite what the outside world says, sometimes people need to be reminded it’s not the opinions of others that matter but ones perception of the self that truly counts. It’s not always about fighting back…sometimes people just need someone to tell them they are enough despite what they might be going through.
If someone comes to you complaining that they are being bullied in any sort of way, let it be your responsibility as a parent, teacher, or friend to remind them whatever is happening is just a chapter in their story, remind them they are enough and are worth it despite how they feel in that moment, remind them they have the courage to rise above whatever they are experiencing and come out on top. Remind them they are amazing despite what some people may think.Make it your responsibility to remind victims of bullying that they have a choice …we always have a choice.
To everyone being bullied out there;
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life but define yourself
Remember they insult and hurt you because they are insecure about something they lack…they want to be you only they don’t have your courage. Don’t fall for their traps to break you because baby you are enough and no one can take that away from you.
*ENOUGH WITH THE BULLYING *
Rest In Peace Ashawnty Davis